It Gets Fatter: Notes From A Fat-Positive, Body-Positive Workshop
Workshop by Sara M. and Asam Ahmad of the It Gets Fatter Project
Notes by Jorge Antonio Vallejos
September 2013 saw Ryerson University Student Union put on Xpressions Against Oppression Week.
One of the workshops was It Gets Fatter facilitated by Sara M. and Asam Ahmad of the It Gets Fatter project.
Intro
Asam introduced himself and started with a question (Sara was running a little late):
What does fat mean as [to] a person of colour?
Asam mentioned the history of the group It Gets Fatter and their website: It Gets Fatter. He followed by talking about his history of having issues with his body and never seeing himself (a person of colour) represented in talks about fat positivity and combatting fat-phobia; because of this Asam talked of preference given to Indigenous Peoples, People of Colour, and women during the workshop. Half the room was people of colour which had me feeling comfortable.
We did a check in to see how people were doing and then a go around to share names and preferred pronouns.
Asam asked, “How many people have heard of fat phobia? Can someone define it for me?”
Definition of fat phobia that we, the group, came up with: the fear and hatred and fat bodies.
Fat phobia is systemic. Everyday you hear of how bodies are supposed to be. Example: the size of airplane seats; TTC (transit) turn styles; clothes for bigger bodies being more expensive…
Ground Rules
Consensus was formed from workshop participants on what can be shared and how people are treated during sharing
* Treat others how they want to be treated
* Use “I” statements
* Everyone is an expert in their own lived experience. Example: oppression is not transferable.
* Confidentiality: what you learn at the workshop can be shared but do not share peoples stories and names.
* Multiple Truths can exist in this room
* Step Up, Step Back: If you are someone who dominates take a step back; if you are a very quiet person, you are encouraged to step up. If you do not identify as fat and are in a fat positive or fat phobia workshop take a step back. If you are white and in an anti-racism workshop step back. If you are a man an in a violence against women workshop step back…
* Recognize your identities and privileges (examples in the paragraph above)
* Self Care: if you need to walk out of the workshop for any reason then do so; no permission is required
Start
Asam writes “FAT” on a board and asks the group “What do you think of when hearing this word?”
Peoples shared thoughts and Asam wrote words down:
Bullied
Uncomfortable
Unattraction
Buffers
Hungry
Gross
Food
Lazy
Unmotivated
Impulsive/No Control
Low Self Esteem
Lonely
Undesirable
Obesity
Unwanted
Unloved
Potbelly
Unathletic
Chubby
* Obseravation: Every word on the board was negative
* These words are everywhere: media, culture…
* “It’s important for us [fat peeps] to use that word and reclaim it,” said Asam. He feels strongly about encouraging others to use it if they identify as fat.
* Different communities have relations with the word “FAT”. Example: big boned, thick…
It Gets Fatter Project
* IGF = submissions based community of TUMBLR. Video submission by Miss Queenly (Being Fat, Queer, and Poor) shown:
* Why not celebrate the way we are and the bodies we have right now?
* Combatting the idea and slogan “It Gets Better”
* Assumption: your looks represent your health
* Good critique of media industry
* BMI (body mass index) makes no sense at all
* Exposing and exploring normalization of certain bodies over others eg. white vs Black
* Reminder: “Doctors aren’t God and they work for us…We should be a lot more critical of the medical industry and doctors,” said Sara.
* Diet industry propogates lies
* “Research has shown that you can’t know anything about anybody’s health by just looking at them,” said Sara.
* Stories shared of family being fat phobic
* Strangers thinking they have licence to tell people why they are fat
* Western culture isn’t the only culture! Many cultures celebrate fatness
* Western perspective: Fat = Bad
* Take note, do research, of cultures and their views of bodies prior to colonization
* Fat phobia affects everyone: “It’s never just fat people affected by these discourses,” said Sara.
Video: Self Love Is Hard (But Totally Worth It)
Circles
Participants sat in two circles talked about what they learned and about two charts written up during the workshop: Self Love chart and Trauma chart.
End
Participants shared their thoughts on the workshop and gave thanks to the organizers and facilitators.
I support fat-identified people, but I still have a lot of internalized (and sometimes externalized) fatphobia to work on.
Margaret,
Thanks so much for posting such an honest comment.
I think we all have to deal with, and work on, internalized and “sometimes externalized” fat phobia. It’s part of our unlearning process.
Peace, prayers, poetry,
Jorge Antonio Vallejos
Black Coffee Poet