OP ED: A FORD ADVERSARY OPPOSES CALLS FOR MAYOR’S RESIGNATION

rob-ford give fingerA Ford Adversary Opposes Calls For Mayor’s Resignation

By Chris Michael Burns

I will preface this by stating that I do not like Mayor Ford and I do not think he is qualified to be the Mayor of Toronto.

Rob Ford is better suited, perhaps, to be mayor of a city that boasts football as the official sport, buffoonery as the official pastime, and considers short tempers, anti-intellectualism and tactlessness to be virtues. I don’t know if there is such a city, but if there were, he would be the natural choice for Mayor. I will refrain from ad hominem beyond that, because I actually want to commend the Mayor, in a way.

I have resisted allowing myself to be taken in by the fever of the crack video allegations, and as I read reports of hundreds of concerned citizens converging at city hall calling for the Mayor to resign (and thousands more endorsements online), I am glad to be outside of the mainstream once again.

When the allegations were made public by two Toronto Star journalists and the city went apoplectic, I hoped secretly for several days that the Mayor would refuse to respond to them. People think they are owed a response to every rumour about a public figure that goes viral. Surely we can exercise some discernment here; if the allegations were about money missing from city hall, we might be entitled to a response.

Mayor Ford held out for almost a week, but he caved and held a press conference, probably at the behest of his circle of advisers (many of which are subsequently dropping like flies, as it were).

All is not lost.

Mayor Ford stated that he is not stepping aside and plans to run in the next election. I was glad to hear this and I think it is exactly right. If he stepped aside now, it would mean that he allowed himself to be bullied by a public pressure campaign that was fuelled by little more than rumour, mobocracy, and a disingenuous newspaper. Talk about ad hominem; “You may have smoked crack, so you must resign.”

I respect him very little, but if he resigned now, I would respect him even less.

It has been said that Ford’s mayoralty is a joke and his scandals have become a distraction from any real work being done at city hall. If this is true, the solution is not for him to resign. The solution is for people to not allow themselves to be so distracted by stories that are worthy of the National Enquirer, at best. So John Stewart and Jimmy Kimmel made cracks about Ford (pun very much intended) and people are crying about Toronto not being taken seriously. And then they blame Ford for it! Ford did not release the video, he did not break the story, and he did not ask people to amplify Rob Ford’s series of unfortunate events (the football fall, the camera crash) and circumvent his municipal work.

And let us remember that the news cycle moves faster than most of us can process it, so “the world” has probably forgotten about it already and moved onto some other scandal. The bad reputation cry doesn’t hold up. I could even argue that no publicity is bad publicity, and that this scandal has increased Toronto’s visibility and street cred in the U.S.A. Toronto has lost it’s innocence. We’re part of the real world now. But I won’t argue that. The point is that it’s all spin.

I am not suggesting that Ford has a respectable record at city hall, either.

We all know he’s embarrassing, but he won an election and if people feel this strongly about his removal from office, they ought to be putting their energy into a candidate Torontonians can’t say no to in 2014. Orchestrating scandals and using intimidation is no way to win. Win fair and square, just like Ford did, as much as we want to pretend it isn’t true. (Though, I still await an election fraud scandal to break. Don’t get any ideas, antiFordists.)

Scandal is all too easy to orchestrate. Suppose I contacted a gossip website with a first-hand account of the Mayor propositioning me for sex, and claimed I had the pictures and text messages to prove it. The gossip site publishes my allegations and releases some scanty evidence to a newspaper.

Presto!

It’s an international scandal and people are protesting and shouting “We deserve to know!”. Would the Mayor then be obliged to hold a press conference and do the same old dance of denial?

I think not.

People accuse Ford of cheapening the city. Is it all him? Or we have allowed this to happen by encouraging it?

Many not-so-secretly want him to slip-up, and not-so-secretly enjoy it when he does. There is an heir of maliciousness to the anti-Ford mob. The rest of us are glad to criticize him on the merits of his ideas. We don’t need crack videos.

Any self-respecting person –which I believe the Mayor is, bully though he may be– would not resign because people think he may have smoked crack.

I don’t want him to be Mayor, but I won’t be taken in by the fever of allegations and mob thinking. People believe the video is real because they want to believe the video is real. And when I see tens of thousands of dollars being raised online to make the video materialize, I wonder how people can’t see the motive, and that it’s all a big ruse.

But then, the video could be real, and I could be wrong. We will have to wait and see.

I won’t hold my breathe though, because there are real problems that need my attention.

Chris Burns head shotChris Michael Burns is an aspiring screenwriter and novelist in Toronto. His sardonic play Weight Loss World debuted at the Toronto Fringe Festival (2010).  He is currently working on The Rope, a novella about the corrosive spiritual effects of the philosophy of Ayn Rand. 

Chris prefers dialectic over debate.

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EXPERIENCING A LACK OF MOTIVATION

Experiencing A Lack Of Motivation

By Jorge Antonio Vallejos

I’m sitting at a long wooden table at my local library.  My laptop is at 32% power.  My buddy is sitting next to me doing schoolwork.  DJ Tiesto’s Adagio For Strings is pumping in my earphones.  And exhaustion is creeping in that I’m trying to fight.

It’s more than exhaustion, this feeling of tired in the now, that I’m fighting.

I’ve felt a lack of motivation over the last few months.  Possibly since January.  It’s hard to pinpoint when it started.

I remember my friend Cindy asking about my drive to run blackcoffeepoet.com a year ago.  I would always say, “I love it…I’m pumped…I’m into it.”

People found it hard to believe that I was able to post three times a week, week after week, year after year:

“You produce so much!”

“I’m having trouble keeping up with you!”

“How do you find the time?”

Blackcoffeepoet.com was a two year run that is now in it’s third year and possibly starts a fourth in September.

I committed to one more year, this year, and I will decide if a fourth is coming.

“Black Coffee Poet[.com] isn’t going to last forever,” said Cindy to me on many occasions.

She is right.

Nothing lasts forever.

And like I learned at the sweatllodge “change is the only constant.”

Last week I was able to spend time with my friend Cindy.  I stayed at her place for five days.  We saw a play, cooked meals, ate out, visited with her friends, and had great talks over tea at night.  It was a special time.

On our second last night together I brought up her question about my motivation and I revealed to her that I was having difficulties staying motivated.  It felt liberating to say it out loud to someone; someone who is a supporter; someone who is a regular reader; someone who has contributed to the website on two occasions.

“Maybe it’s time to take a break from blackcoffeepoet[.com], a leave of absence, to write your book,” said Cindy.

Cindy and some other friends have been a constant reminder of the book that is in me and my need to sit down and write it.  At times I like their support and enthusiasm, and other times I don’t want to hear it.

I’ve got a fear of writing my book.  And sometimes I wonder if blackcoffeepoet.com is a place for me to hide from writing it.  Other times I feel so motivated and proud of the work I do here.   I tell myself that I can do both: write my book and continue my website.

There are some things I have done to take the pressure off of me a bit:

1. I have asked people to write guest reviews and opinion editorials.

2. I have published letters.

3. And I’m thinking of asking a couple of people if they want a regular monthly column.

Blackcoffeepoet.com menas a lot to me.  It means a lot to lots of people.

This is not a farewell post.  This is not an announcement of a leave of absence.  This is my communicating with you, my readers, about what I am going through at the moment.

It’s my thinking out loud and expressing myself on the page.

It’s me letting go of fear.

It’s community in writing.

I always say my writing is my activism.  With all the letters I have gotten I have come to realize that my writing is also community building and participation.

I’m not alone in this.

I have Creator, my readers, my friends, my family, my stacks of books, my pens and paper, my laptop that has been with me since the start, and time.

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ACCEPTING OPINION EDITORIALS AND LETTERS TO BCP

Monday May 20, 2013

Dear Readers,

Do you have something to say about activism, academia, blackcoffeepoet.com, current events, literature, life, or politics?  Is there something on your mind that mainstream media is not covering?  Have you written something that has not found a home?

Write a Letter to Black Coffee Poet or an Opinion Editorial!

I welcome writing on:

Aboriginal Peoples and Politics

Book Culture

Decolonization

Disability Politics

Education

Feminism(s): Indigenous, Of Colour, Trans, 3rd Wave…

International and Local Politics

LGBTQ Life

Literature

Race

Sex Work

Spirituality

Trans Peoples and Rights

and so much more…

There is no need to pitch a Letter or Op-Ed as they are not articles.  Keep in mind: 1. not all Letters and Op-Eds submitted will be published; 2. Letters and Op-Eds are their own genres of writing to be written with care, respect, and thoughtfulness like any other genre.

If you are new to blackcoffeepoet.com take some time to read the publication and find out what it’s about before submitting.  Here at three resources for that: ABOUT and Black Coffee Poet and Popular Posts.

See some recently published letters to BCP:

Let Us Be Human: A Trans Woman Calls On Her Sisters To Act In Support of Missing and Murdered Aboriginal Women by Cindy Bourgeois

Embracing Diversity by Rusty Kjarvik

See some recently published Opinion Editorials:

The Romney Doctrine by Dr. Gene Grabiner

Anti Violence Against Indigenous Women and Resurgence by Christine Luza

Submit to blackcoffeepoet@gmail.com with Letter to BCP or Opinion Editorial in the subject line.

Submissions must include full name, phone number, and address of sender.  Home addresses and phone numbers will not be published.  I reserve the right to edit letters and opinion editorials.  Letters run from 150 to 30o words.  Opinion Editorials run from 700 to 800 words.  Due to the volume of submissions I can not acknowledge or publish every submission.

Thank you for your consideration, time, and support.

Peace, Positivity, Prayers,

Jorge Antonio Vallejos

Black Coffee Poet

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VLOG: PROBLEMATIC RAPE PREVENTION TIPS

Problematic Rape Prevention TipsIn my last post, Problems With Sexual Assault Prevention Tips, I wrote a 7 point critique of tips sheets floating around the internet like the one to the left.

I also broke down a popular tip sheet tip by tip.  Some tips I agreed with and most I did not.

This VLOG (video blog) is a follow up to my last post.

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PROBLEMS WITH SEXUAL ASSAULT PREVENTION TIPS

Sexual Assault Prevention TipsProblems With Sexual Assault Prevention Tips

By Jorge Antonio Vallejos

I’ve been seeing a lot of these types of lists (seen on the left and below my 7 point critique) floating around Face Book.  Some have good info but many don’t take in to account a lot of things:

1. Many tip lists are based on blaming the person who was assaulted.  It’s usually called “victim blaming”; something I don’t like because the person might identify as a survivor.  And the responsibility for an assault not to occur is left on the person assaulted.

2. Most tip lists don’t take into account that most sexual assaults happen by people known to the person assaulted: relative, friend, boss, teacher etc.  Most tip lists refer to strangers assaulting people, most often women.

3. Most tip lists are geared toward straight (heterosexual) communities.  The tips often mention men assaulting women.  They don’t take into account that sexual assault happens in straight and LGBTQ communities and that peoples of all genders and races assault and are assaulted.

4. Sexworkers are never taken into account in these mainstream tip lists.  Tips are geared toward peoples deemed contributors to society which sexworkers are not.  And sexworkers are seen as there for the taking.  Sexually assaulting a sexworker is seen as an oxymoron in this twisted society.

5. Sexual assault tip lists exclude those who are incarcerated.  Seventy-thousand sexual assaults happen every year in American prisons, 60% of which happens via guards assaulting inmates.  These tips are geared toward those who are not incarcerated.

6. Such tip lists hint around consent as opposed to naming it, and if they do they lack a break down of what consent is.  And sometimes they use the word “No” instead of “YES!”.

7. Tip sheets never name Rape Culture, or acknowledge that we live in one, or the need for educating people about Rape Culture.

Lets look at this list which is aimed at the attacker with a tongue and cheek tone that has some problems.

I don’t have all the answers and I might have missed, or not thought of, many things.  If you have any thoughts please comment below the post or email me.

1. Don’t put drugs in peoples drinks in order to control their behaviour.

This can happen at a club, a bad date, or by a long time friend or relative.  So, I think #1 is OK.

2. When you see someone walking by themselves leave them alone!

Years ago when talking with some members of Toronto Native Youth, a group of politically active Native youth in Toronto, I learned about a very important book, The Will To Change by Black feminist theorist bell hooks, and some male ally tips, one tip being similar to #2.

We talked about us being men of colour and how when we walk at night we cross the road if a woman is walking on the sidewalk alone.  It was not prevention but allyship.  We cross the road so as to not have the woman feel unsafe.  Same goes if we are on the subway; we move to another car or to the end of the car if we are alone with a woman on the subway at night.

The problem with tip #2 is that it again points to the scenario of a stranger assaulting someone on the street and ignores the fact that most assaults happen at home, at work, at school etc. by someone the person being attacked knows.

3. If you pull over to help someone with car problems, remember not to assault them.

This tip again points to the stranger scenario.  If sexual assault happens in, or near, a car it is most likely to be on a date whether business or personal, or on a family trip with a relative, or ride given by a neighbour, or a school bus driver…

The side of the road attack is real but it happens more on TV shows like Criminal Minds and in movies.

4. If you are in the elevator and someone else gets in, don’t assault them!

This has a little bit of the stranger element to it but it’s also a real thing.  Many people are assaulted in their home residence (building) elevators by neighbours and building employees.

5. Never open an unlocked door or window uninvited.

This is victim and survivor blaming.  It puts to onus on the victim and survivor leaving an entry for their attacker even though it is aimed at the attacker.

6. Use the buddy system!  If you are not able to stop yourself from assaulting people, ask a friend to stay with you while you are in public.

This is total bullshit that is based on a buddy system where people are supposed to always be on guard as opposed to society educating peoples about, and challenging, rape culture.

7. Always be honest with people! Don’t pretend to be a caring friend in order to gain trust of someone you want to assault.  Consider telling them you plan to assault them.  If you don’t communicate your intentions, the other person may take that as a sign that you do not plan to rape them.

I’m not a fan of the humour being used here but it’s bang on.  This is one of the most realistic scenarios: a “friend” raping someone.

8. Dont forget: you can’t have sex with someone unless they’re awake!

What this is not saying is that many longterm partners rape their significant other while they are sleeping.  NO consent is rape whether you are married or in a long term relationship.

9. Carry a whistle.  If you are worried you might assault someone accidentally you can hand it to the person you’re with so they can blow it if you do.

The carry a whistle advice is again based on leaving the responsibility on the person being attacked as opposed to teaching people about, and challenging, rape culture.

10. DON’T ASSAULT PEOPLE!

Truth!

Below is a video of an essay about rape culture that I recently presented at a conference:

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THE WHITENESS OF REMEMBRANCE: TIM BOSMA, REHTAEH PARSONS, AND JANE CREBA

The Whiteness of Remembrance:

Tim Bosma, Rehataeh Parsons, and Jane Creba

By Jorge Antonio Vallejos

“They’re looking for that white guy who’s disappeared but the 800 Missing and Murdered Aboriginal women in Canada don’t matter,” said my friend  Stefoknee while we were hanging out this weekend.

It was an important and honest comment.

It’s true that Tim Bosma, a white man from Ontario, Canada, is all over the news. Rightfully so.  He’s missing.  Everyone who has been murdered or goes missing should be given media attention.

But it doesn’t work out that way.

North American media has a history of highlighting missing and murdered white people, women in particular.  In terms of women going missing some call it Missing White Woman Syndrome.  The recent case of three women–Gina DeJesus, Amanda Berry, Michelle Knight–held captive in a basement in Cleveland, Ohio is a perfect example.

The Cleveland Plain Dealer wrote 36 articles about Amanda Berry, a white woman, and 19 about Gina DeJesus, a Latina woman of colour, during the 10 years that they were missing.

That’s almost double the coverage given to a white woman.

Not surprising.

We don’t have to look far to see the same thing happening on the stolen land now known as Canada.  Recently, the media was saturated with news about the suicide of Rehtaeh Parsons, a young white woman who was gang raped and decided to end her life after much humiliation by her rapists and her community.

We live in a culture of rape.

Parsons became a national tragedy.  What happened to her was sad, wrong, and horrible. Her rapists should be punished.  Her case should be shared and learned from.  And rape culture has to be acknowledged, exposed, talked about, and challenged.

But no one was questioning why the Parsons case was given so much attention. Hundreds, if not thousands, of women are gang raped every year in Canada.  Why did Parsons case become a national story?

Parsons was white, young, pretty, and middle class.

Parsons became Canada’s new national tragedy.

Parsons became the new Jane Creba.

December 26, 2005 saw Jane Creba, a young white woman, lose her life to a stray bullet on Yonge Street in the middle of the day during Canada’s busiest business day: Boxing Day.  It became known as the Boxing Day Shooting and Creba became Canada’s national tragedy.

The then Mayor of Toronto, David Miller, marched up and down Yonge Street demanding an end to violence.  He never marched around Cherry Beach where many sexworkers have been killed and dumped.  He never walked with activists protesting the murders and disappearances of what is now 800+ Aboriginal women.  He never spoke to the media about the countless women of colour who have been killed in the city he ran for years.

Why?

Canada cares about young, white, pretty, middle and upper class women.

White men run everything so of course Tim Bosma is a priority in the media at the moment.

Apart from the 800+ Missing and Murdered Aboriginal women, proof enough that the media cares about white folk more than anyone, I’ll give a few examples of women drowned out by the white woman syndrome practiced by media.

Chantel Dunne

A year after Jane Creba was killed by a stray bullet 19 year old Black woman Chantel Dunn was also killed by a stray bullet in Toronto (2006).  Dunn was a second year student at York University and was shot while sitting in a car.  Her killer has not been found.

Have you heard of Chantel Dunne?  Did Dunne get the same media attention as Jane Creba?  Did she become Canada’s national tragedy?

Stephine Beck

Whiteness is not only about skin it’s about class and privilege.  Not all white folk are middle or upper class, and not all white folk have the same privileges (other than skin privilege, of course) as middle and upper class white folk.  Stephine Beck was a white sex worker who was murdered by Wayne Ryczak in 2007.

Ryczak was given 1 day in jail for killing Beck.

One day!

Why? Wayne Ryczak is straight, white, makes $75 000 a year, and belongs to a Christian church.  He matters.  Sexworkers don’t matter in this society.  Stephine Beck, a sexworker, did not matter.

Have you heard of Stephine Beck?  Did Beck get large amounts of media attention?  Did Beck become Canada’s national tragedy?

Bridget Takyi

Bridget Takyi was a 27 year old mother of two boys brutally killed by her ex partner in Toronto, January 2013.  She was on her way to work when Emmanuel Owusu-Ansah stabbed her several times and burned her body leaving it unrecognizable.

Have you heard of Bridget Takyi?  Did Takyi get large amounts of media attention?  Did Takyi become Canada’s national tragedy?

There is a whiteness of remembrance in media and society that has to be challenged.

Aboriginal women and women of colour are affected by violence at higher levels than white women.  Aboriginal women and women of colour matter.  Aboriginal women and women of colour deserve the same media attention as white women.  Aboriginal women and women of colour are people too.

Below is a poem, Shane It Isn’t Fair, I wrote in 2008 about this topic.  It was published in the 2009 YU Free Press Feminist Issue:

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MY SISTERS, MY SOUL, MY HEART: A POEM FOR NATIVE WOMEN

Cheyenne FoxThis Sunday (Mothers Day) in Toronto, Canada there will be a vigil for Cheyenne Fox (20) and all Aboriginal mothers who have been murdered or gone missing in the land now known as Canada.

Did you know that 800 Aboriginal women have been murdered or gone missing in Canada?

Below is a poem on video for all Indigenous women by Dana Wesley of Moose Cree First Nation.

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SEXUAL CONSENT CHART: SEXUAL VIOLENCE K[NO]W MORE!!!!

May is Sexual Violence Awareness Month!

Activists say Sexual Violence K[NO]W More!  See my previous post for some resources.

Here is a chart about consent put out by queeringsexed.com:

CONSENT Chart

Educate!

Share!

Act!

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SEXUAL VIOLENCE K[NO]W MORE!!!!

May Sexual Assault Awareness Month posterI recently noticed this poster (see left) on Face Book by Ottawa Coalition to End Violence Against Women about the month of May being Sexual Assault Awareness Month.  The slogan is Sexual Violence Know More.  Catchy and well put.

Wikipedia says that April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month in the United States.

I say every month should be Sexual Assault Awareness Month!

Sexual Violence happens everyday to peoples of all ages, abilities, classes, races and genders with some people being more vulnerable to sexual violence than others.  What are you doing about it?

I say educate, share, act!

Educate yourself.  Share your info.  Act in different ways to stop sexual violence.

My writing is my activism.  Here are my latest actions toward stopping sexual violence:

This is an essay I recently presented about poetry combating rape culture:

This is a poem I was recently commissioned to write about the Charter of Rights and Freedoms:

Educate!

Share!

Act!

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BCP READS @ POVERTY TO POWER 2013

BCP Power to Poverty readingPoverty to Power Reading

By Jorge Antonio Vallejos

Photo by Gerardo Correa

This past Monday I presented 3 poems about racism in the workplace, violence against Aboriginal women, and the prison industrial complex at the Colour of Poverty 2013 conference: Poverty to Power.

I had the pleasure of sharing the stage with Indigenous Elder Ed Sackaney, Poet Laureate of Toronto George Elliott Clarke, and poet Amani.  BIG Thanks to Colour of Poverty for inviting me to read at their important event!

In the two post previous to this one I shared my Preparing For A Poetry Reading and A Poet’s Pointers For A Public Reading, both of which I used for the reading at Poverty to Power that you will see in the video below.

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